I’m in quite the predicament, but I’ll try to keep it brief. My life is over. A close friend of mine has been dating this guy since mid last year, and I have a huge crush on him. I tried to keep it a secret, but she found out like a week ago. Since then, they have broken up. How can I fix this?
Dear Predicament Princess,
I can see where the name comes from, this is really a predicament. First of all, have you had a real talk with that friend? You need to know how she feels about the whole thing. If she’s hung up on him, ask her if she’d be upset by you giving it a shot with him.
If she is, you’re going to need to evaluate your relationship with her and her ex-boyfriend. Who’s more important to you, him or her? If he is truly worth more to you in your life, I say to go for it and tell him how you feel.
The worst that can happen is him saying no. However, I’ve seen situations similar to this one play out, and it’s rare that the boy is worth it. You’d be sacrificing a friendship for a boyfriend. Is that really your best move?
There’s also the off chance that she’ll tell you she’s “totally okay with it,” but that’s even trickier. There’s a good chance she would be lying to make you happy, so you need to make absolutely sure that she’s telling you the truth. If she truly is okay with it, you’ve hit the jackpot. Go for it, and good luck.