I feel like everyone hates me for no apparent reason. I try my best at being friendly and happy towards everyone, but I never get anything in return. For example, I always send grams to my friends, whether it is Christmas, Halloween, or Valentine’s Day, and I never get ANYTHING in return. It’s so depressing! Like, the teachers will be handing them out and the people at my table will have gotten two or three while I get none. I feel like my friends don’t appreciate me enough and I always end up getting walked all over. Also, whenever a friend asks me for money or a favor, I always say yes. I just don’t know how to say no, and I never get paid back for it or get a favor in return. Please help me, Sam!
First off, let me start by saying that you sound like a great friend and overall person. But, do not let your friends take advantage of your kind gestures. If they say that they’ll pay you back, put them to the test. Remind them consistently. People have the tendency to forget. Do not let your friends take control of you just because you’re afraid you’ll lose them. If they don’t like you when you’re not giving them money, then maybe they aren’t really your friends. You should attempt to make it clear to them that it’s your money, and perhaps you don’t want to give it away. It’s understandable. On the other hand, your friends are mere middle schoolers who may not have the money to start off with, you may not know their living situation. Some kids don’t have an extra five dollars to spend freely on things such as “boo grams”. Lastly, you need to comprehend the fact that just because you didn’t receive any grams doesn’t mean that your friends hate you. It’s very clear that you must be a great friend and your friends are very lucky to have you.